People ask how I get my head around things when days seem dark and gloomy. I shared my insight. It’s one of many tools a Psychologist taught me when seeing them around Covid lock down days. It’s the best tip.

She said to put aside 15-20 minutes every day. It is your alone time. It is a time to be alone and get things off your chest. I found listening to loud music during this time worked, maybe singing (LOL… shouting) a bit to Akka Dakka (aka AC/DC). Sure you can cry your tears or shout out to the wilderness. Whatever rocks your boat. Get rid of the angst.

What this tool gave me was discipline. When things got tough I was reminded of her words. I would grit my teeth and remind myself to worry about it later. 

Having been brought up in a fairly Stoic family I guess I equated seeking help to weakness. I think lockdown made me realise that maybe I needed some tools in my toolbox though. She had me pegged the first time she met me. Not fluff, no bubble, just good solid facts and strategies to walk away with and apply.

After several months practicing the principle I no longer needed to. It bloody worked. I’m grabbing life by the horns and I’m cramming in as much adventure as I can. I’ve found my joy amongst it all.

Dezzie 2024